I hate my mother. Or do I?

[Oliveloaf]

Always loved the cliche of someone learning through therapy that they hate their mother.

But...might you actually hate your mom?

Just asking.

[RabbitMage]

I've actually learned through therapy I do not hate my mother, I just hate a lot of her personality traits and actions.

[OtakuLoki]

I like my mom. But I didn't need therapy to learn that I hate some of her behavior patterns.

[Cluricaun]

I love my mom. We went on a pub crawl in the town that she lives in this weekend. The people who we were to cab it back with got so drunk that they ditched us around 9:45 (we started at 2:00 to be fair) and we were stranded. With both myself and my fiancee completely shitcanned my fiancee called my mom and she not only came and picked us up, but hung out and had beers with us until we passed out, and then made us bacon and eggs and sausage and croissants and hashed browns with coffee and OJ and Bloody Marys in the morning before driving us back to get our car.

My mom is fucking awesome.

[Taumpy]

I think quite a lot of my Mom, and since I've been an adult (and moved two hours away ) I've had a good relationship with her.

[Myrnalene]

Wait I thought we were voting on Oliveloaf's mom.

[Oliveloaf]

Wait I thought we were voting on Oliveloaf's mom.

No, I cast that vote. Hate your own mom.

[Sarahfeena]

Wait I thought we were voting on Oliveloaf's mom.

She is super nice.

[Oliveloaf]

She is super nice.

To you.

[Orual]

My mom can be awesome; she can also be fairly infuriating.

[Zuul]

Eh, mom's fine.

We have our clashes and there are a lot of things I violently disagree with her about and a lot of really shitty choices she's made, but at the end of the day I love her. I just happen to love her a whole lot more when she's on the other side of the country from me.

[vison]

Well, I've known my Mum for 65 years and on the whole, I love her. She drives me bats, of course. But an 85 year old lady is entitled to drive her children bats.

2 of my younger sisters tend or tended to "blame" Mum for a lot of the stupid and shitty things they did, and that used to make me shake my head.

Because:

I will say this and then duck and run away: MANY (not all) people do not learn to understand and love their Mum until they have kids of their own. This was true of me, and of many (not all) people I know. The 2 sisters I mention did not and do not have children.

[Sarahfeena]

I admire my mom a lot...she's smart and far more educated and accomplished in her career than I will ever be. And she's a genuinely nice person, too. She does however, have a tendency to be self-centered and self-involved, and while she always means well she isn't always that thoughful of others.

All that being said, I do like her pretty well, and more so as I've gotten older and have learned to accept her faults as she has had to accept mine!

[Glazer]

Depends.

My Mom died when I was 5 at the height of any child's love of Mother. Now my step mother on the other hand. Well, she is the reason I haven't spoken to anyone in my family since 1985.

[Sarahfeena]

Depends.

My Mom died when I was 5 at the height of any child's love of Mother. Now my step mother on the other hand. Well, she is the reason I haven't spoken to anyone in my family since 1985.

Glazer, I'm sorry.

[Glazer]

Glazer, I'm sorry.

Don't be. My mom died 40 years ago. And I've been happy ever since I divorced my family.

[Sarahfeena]

Don't be. My mom died 40 years ago. And I've been happy ever since I divorced my family.

I'm glad for that, but it's just all wrong, you know?

I know what you mean about divorcing family. My husband and his brother haven't talked to each other except through lawyers in years, since their folks died. It bothered me for a long time, but then I realized that my husband is happier this way. Better to move on than try to fix people and relationships that don't want to be fixed.

[Inner Stickler]

I love my mommy. She treats me like an adult even when I don't want to but then when I get so frustrated I just want to kick the walls, she makes me a snack, tucks me into bed and kisses me goodnight.

[Glazer]

I'm glad for that, but it's just all wrong, you know?

I know what you mean about divorcing family. My husband and his brother haven't talked to each other except through lawyers in years, since their folks died. It bothered me for a long time, but then I realized that my husband is happier this way. Better to move on than try to fix people and relationships that don't want to be fixed.

My family is the reason people make fun of Alabama.

[pepperlandgirl]

My mom's pretty terrible. I don't want to say I "hate" her, though that is how I voted. I want to love her. But she makes it impossible. Nobody blames my dad for leaving her. When Una Persson flew out for my wedding, she was absolutely appalled by my mother (though far too classy to ever let on). In fact, nobody who knows my mother likes her. I feel bad about this, because I don't know how much of it is in her control. The thought of spending time with her makes me physically ill sometimes, and my sister is in therapy to deal with her fear that she will one day be stuck as my mother's sole caretaker.

[jali]

I love mom - she's dead.

She was the kindest, sweetest and most generous person I've ever known.

I was so lucky to have had Estella Arnell Lambe as my mother. She was literally the best.

[Marsilia]

I love my mom, and I'm very grateful to her. She accidently turned me into the person I am today.

[OneCentStamp]

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[Zweedo Rodriguez]

She didn't like me and I didn't like her. A silly selfish woman.

[AndrewRyan]

My mother, is the most stubborn, frustrating and ridiculous woman you will ever meet in your entire life. But I would lay down in traffic for that woman. I love her.

[Clothahump]

I can't answer the poll question. I spent many years of my life pretty much alienated from my parents because of my own personal problems. It wasn't until the last 5 years or so of my mother's life that we got closer and I realized how much I had shortchanged myself.

[parzival]

I didn't hate my mother. Though sometimes I hate[d] what happened to her and the effect it had on all of us (30-year-long story; and the brain tumor was just the beginning).

[Oliveloaf]

Just spent the weekend around my folks.

My mother managed not to get on my nerves...too much.

[Nrblex]

My mother is why I occasionally veer into misogyny.