Originally posted by
Sarahfeena
My question is this: is it hard to get used to all the help at home? It seems like it would be strange to have so many people in and around the house, working around me.
Yes and no.
The yes part: It is very strange at first, and in fact the extent to which people who are having staff for the first time freak out is a good overall measure of flexibility. When we were newcomers, it felt extremely awkward, but we were counseled by everyone to relax and adjust, so we did. The way I framed it mentally was "well, if you were in a nice hotel, and passed the maid wheeling her cart down the hall, or you were eating in a restaurant and the busboy cleaned off the table near you, it wouldn't feel odd, so try to think of it like that."
Occasionally people (usually young couples living abroad for the first time) gasp in horror at the thought of people in their house and complain extensively that they cannot get used to it. We have found that this is a good predictor of whether they'll adjust in a general sense. There are so many ways that living in a vastly different culture calls for flexibility - if they can't even handle the idea of someone walking through the house with a basket of laundry, probably lots of things will make their heads explode.
The no part: you don't generally run into your staff all that much, especially if you have a predictable schedule. They'll clean while you're at work or otherwise out of the house, and retreat to the staff quarters while you are home. Other than saying "hello" in the morning, I rarely see my maids.