How do you find the boundaries there? Between letting go (which seems to be one of the Major Tasks of adulthood) and letting it ALL go.
It seems to me that most of us enter our 20's with a fine set of notions of how the world should be. And for some few, that agenda serves as an excellent blueprint for action. Without hope and foolish optimism, little would change.
And yet it also seems to me that the vast majority of our ideas and notions just don't work. By the time we're in our 40's, we're in a process of letting go of most of them and learning that the world isn't obligated to meet our ideals, and in fact doesn't care.
How do you distinguish between giving up prematurely and beating your head against the wall unnecessarily?
Where and how do you let go?