The CNN story on the Mississippi basketball coach accused of whipping his students made me think about corporal punishment in general - not from a debate standpoint, but more from a personal experience standpoint.
Were you hit, spanked, whipped, or otherwise subjected to physical punishment while growing up? What sort of punishment did you get, and for what transgressions? Who did it, and how often did it happen? How did it make you feel at the time? How do you feel now?
In my case, I was slapped, spanked, caned, and otherwise hit on a regular basis for minor transgressions by my mother - one time when I didn't study for a multiplication test at age 8, my mother threw a hairbrush at me and made my head bleed; I vomited blood afterward (though I'm sure it was nerves, not a head injury, that caused the vomiting).
I also remember having bruise marks on my upper arms in the shape of her hands where she had grabbed and shaken me so hard.
Another time when she was caning me with a wooden walking stick, the cane hit the wall and a chip flew off of it (the cane; I don't remember how the wall fared). Peculiarly enough, she still has that walking stick 43 years later, the chip a silent testament to the fact I didn't imagine the whole thing. When she dies it will be a great pleasure for me to throw the damn stick away.
As horrific as the previous paragraphs probably seem (and it was NO PICNIC growing up with my mother, believe me) on a daily basis it wasn't quite the chapter out of an expose about child abuse that it probably sounds like. Mostly I just got spanked and slapped a bit sooner and a bit harder than any other kids whose parents believed in spanking (which a lot did in those days). I remember the stories above, and several more like them, because they were the worst of the lot.
It scared the crap out of me growing up like that, though, especially because the slightest thing could set my mother off, so I didn't know how to avoid being hit.
To this day I fear my mother, even though she can't hit me any more. Now that I have a child of my own, I truly do not understand corporal punishment. I'm not being "holier than thou" or taking smug satisfaction in "I'm BETTER than my dreadful mother!" - I truly couldn't imagine hitting a child, any more than I could kick a kitten.
What's your story, and your feelings?